okay maybe not a rant because I am not necessarily angry.
It is more of something I have noticed.
So I started working out and changing my diet about 11 months ago. I have had ups and downs and have been a lot more strict during times and more lenient during others. However I have been working towards a healthier me for a while.
Since that has happened there have been people in my life who have had comments to say. Many are really good. I mean better than good, great. I have amazing supportive people in my life. D and my parents top the list. D pushes me to go to the gym when I am feeling lazy but doesn't make me feel awful when I want a little extra cheese or a scoop of ice cream. My mom didn't get upset when I brought healthy foods to Thanksgiving break and didn't get mad when I chose to eat a pre portioned salad instead of the meal that was made. Plus countless comments across social media have made this journey amazing and made me feel supported.
To them and many others, i give thanks because without them i would have had way more road blocks.
However, there have been other kinds of comments. Nonchalant, petty, jealous, and even down right rude comments.
I think whenever someone changes something about themselves especially their lifestyle, people who knew them pre-change have their own thoughts. Some of those are positive others are negative thoughts. People say things, and yes of course they have the right to their opinion, but when those comments are to be rude or to put down something positive...i ask, what is the point?
Some things that have been said to me--
'Oh of course miss healthy is ordering a salad/veggies/chicken etcc'
'Well we can't all be healthy here like Sarah'
'What are you treating yourself to? Celery?'
*posting a fitness/gym photo or selfie* 'Just pulling a Sarah'
'Yeah yeah we know you went to the gym this morning, but i got to sleep in'
*eating something unhealthy* 'yeaaaaah, we will let you be healthy'
'Oh just skip the gym, you already went this week. Make me feel better about not going'
While the actual words are not 'hateful' the tone can say it all.
these are just a few that I can remember.
I get it. Not everyone wants to be so concentrated on what they put in their body and their working out. I get it.
I think a lot of people make the majority of comments like these absent mindedly without trying to be malicious. They are not meaning to hurt my feelings or get under my skin which is why most of these comments do not bother me much.
However, there are those make comments to tear me down. To make me feel like I am being annoying or not doing what I should be. Not everyone has the same goals as I do and that is totally fine, but why put down mine? If you don't like my instagram fitness photos, don't follow me. It's that easy. Or if you don't want to seem me order a salad, don't ask me to lunch.
I think there is jealousy involved. Now I am not some self absorbed whore bag who thinks people are jealous of her, blah blah. What I mean is jealous of progress. I have made progress. Not huge leaps and bounds (probably because of my affection for ranch and chocolate---not together but in their own separate deliciousness) So many people want to get healthy and lose weight and I have. So instead of facing their own issues they want to make off handed comments to me.
that pisses me off.
well it did.
I am not choosing a new route. I am not longer letting comments malicious or not get to me. I am brushing that crap off.
instead I am going to focus on me and let them focus on me if they want or themselves. that is their deal. I want to build others up and help others with their own journey.
which brings me to the end of this post. YOU.
If you are working towards a healthier you, LET ME KNOW!! I want to be there for you. We can swap recipes, workouts, cute fitness apparel or just motivation. I love following fitness IGs and feeling like I am part of this fitness family. I want to continue that feeling to others.