Good Morning Dolls!
Thank God Wednesday is here! I am so glad it's here.
mostly because I get a rest day :) #bum
BUT also because I am that much closer to a relaxing weekend with my love and good friends.
but what brings me here to you today is something that i saw on 'Girl Code' (yes it's on MTV and yes I like to watch it while i run because sometimes Bravo has movies during cardio time)
they topic was creeping on your significant other. aka snooping
I have heard and seen many of my friends snoop. They look through phones with the guy walks out of the room. They read texts over shoulders, they go through every picture ever posted anywhere. They scroll through months/years of wall posts etc etc.
Have I been guilty of a few of these.
I have looked through D's pics on facebook and looked at his about me/wall.
once or twice.
*note- i have never and will never look through a guys phone/email/texts etc*
Many girls say they do it to 'be on the safe side' or to get a better idea what their guy is doing. For me it all boils down to trust. If you feel the need to creep or snoop there is (do not deny it) a level of distrust.
I trust D.
with everything. especially the most precious thing i have.
I don't need to creep or look over his shoulder when his phone lights up because i know i have nothing to worry about. I know that if i ever did go through his phone I trust I'd find nothing. Now I am not saying this to brag, but that is the kind of relationship i want and I would assume most girls want as well.
Many girls I know creep at the beginning stages of a relationship. I have been there with multiple friends combing through FB pics. It was a fun bonding moment. but looking back & when I really think about it, that ruins everything. You are not learning about this new person authentically. You are forming opinions, finding out things that you could have learned organically instead of behind a computer screen.
Plus seeing a post from another girl within a few weeks of dating is going to make you CRAZY when there is ZERO reason most likely to be.
Don't get me wrong, many guys are Dbags. I get it. I have been hurt by a-holes in the past too. Girls justify snooping to protect themselves, but the second you feel the need to snoop...that should be a red flag that maybe this isn't the relationship for you.
Trust your intuition on your guy and live your life.
If he turns out to be a jerk, move on to the next!